This series on "empowerment" can be found in the book,
"Autism Discussion Page on Anxiety, Behavior, School and Parenting Strategies."
The guide is great for promoting self awareness in children, helping them understand what autism or Aspergers are, and how it affect them - both strengths and challenges. Learning about their differences allows them to better adapt and advocate for themselves. Once children on the spectrum begin to understand how they are different, their challenges start making sense to them. From there they can make accommodations to minimize the daily challenges they face, develop coping strategies to face stressors they cannot avoid, and learn to regulate their nervous system so they do not get overwhelmed. The guide does a great job emphasizing that the child should not feel the need to "fix" or change what his or her needs are, but rather to use strengths to better meet those needs.
The videos below are a great resource to help in the discussion with your child, as well.
Visit Autism of Society of NC to gain knowledge and find help/resources in your area!
It is important to have these conversations before a child starts setting up defenses that are hard to break down. Focus on all aspects of the child, including strengths and weaknesses, interests and personality traits, with autism being just a part of them.
Explore these resources! If you need additional guidance and support, speak with your team of therapists to locate a professional who specializes in talking to families about autism.